Two Notes To Self : Love and Empowerment

Hello Lovelies,

Today is more about self-empowerment. We are all equal, no one is better than you, and you are not better than others. Lucky Dube sums this well with the song: “different colours, one people”. “How would your life be different if…You stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions? Let today be the day…You stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others”
―Steve Maraboli

I came across ElleAfrique‘s article that featured an albino model, Thando Hopa. I was thrilled on the way the model answered questions with regards to her condition. I asked myself, what is to create a sense of self and self-love? I dug more into different places to come up with an answer to this question. In my opinions, self-love is accepting yourself as you are before others do. Basically, in order to love your neighbor as yourself, you have to start with loving yourself. Those who hate others, I truly believe that they do not love themselves. One thing to keep in mind, embrace your beauty with all acceptance. Check out two self-love quotes and the lady who inspired this post.


“Acceptance is the key to transformation. Accepting what is, instead of denying it, allows room for growth. Utilize your power of choice. – Tomiko Fraser Hines


“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, but what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.”
C. JoyBell C.

Photos: Elle Afrique Magazine

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Check out All these Exciting Things Behind Fancy Lacy

Hello Lovelies,

It is update time and I wanted to say:


Thank you for reading Fancy Lacy posts, following me via email and Facebook. It has been great blogging for the past few months. Beautiful amazing things are in store for Fancy Lacy. I’m now trying to bring in the blog new voices and ideas. Be ready to meet a team of talented, creative and opinionated individuals. Don’t miss their posts. Behind the scene, while customizing the blog, I got stuck. The expert’s team is coming to my rescue, I hire GreenBanana to add some aesthetic features. I can’t wait to share the finish look with you. Don’t get too excited though, It is only something small.

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New Year : These 4 Negative Attitudes Shouldn’t Make it Into 2015



This monk’s picture was captured in Korea. The monk was walking around taking people photographs. I wanted to capture him in actions… So I took this pic of him. You can read more about my trip to Korea Here.

“Our life is what our thought make it” – Marcus Aurelus

Attitude defines our ways. Attitude determines our happiness. I’m no expert when it comes to human psychology but I know that life comes sometimes with choices. It is acceptable to abandon a “laissez-faire” attitude and invest in overcoming negative attitudes. Why? Because it is the simplest thing to do and it makes life more joyful. Don’t underestimate the power of a mental state. New habit does not come overnight. It will take time and energy, determination, and perseverance. Don’t limit yourself. New Year is right here,  do not attempt to take with you these 4 negative attitudes.

1. Procrastination

Stop putting or leaving things for the next day, next month, or next year. Time is important. Seize it now and act now. Like someone? Tell them. Want to travel? If you have the means for it, do it. Want to try a new recipe? Stop staring at that food picture and get into it. Want to learn?  Educate yourself. Want to explore new career possibilities? Start investing in it.  Start with a plan. Planning helps you set goals, define them, and reach them. The journey to master self-control starts today.

2. Sadness & Lamentation

This attitude keeps you away from enjoying your life. This quote really sums up why this bad attitude should change “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. ” – Tony Robbins

Self-pity will not take anybody anywhere. Practice gratitude when you can. Negativity is time-consuming. It overwhelms. Be thankful for your accomplishments as little as it can be. Create new opportunities and new dreams. The new dreams will be something to look forward to. It will give hope and contentment. Surround yourself with positive energy,  play some happy music. Create joyful moments.

3. Irresponsibility

Stop the blame. Take ownership of your actions. Admit when you are wrong. Apologize and move on. Take the time to analyze any situation and see how you contributed to the problem. The contribution can be directly or indirectly. Try to find solutions where it’s needed. If there is no solution, admire the problem. I always refer to this quote when I am unable to change any situation “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Reinhold Niebuhr

4. Chasing on being a people “pleaser”

Be yourself. No one can do this better than yourself. Stop seeking for approval, you will always fall short. You see each person have different expectations. Don’t go out of your comfort zone to please someone. Let people like you or hate you for who you are. Do the right thing, show respect and appreciation. Hopefully, the rest will follow. If not, at least you will have peace of mind.

Happy New Year!!


– Judith


3 Steps To A Realistic New Year Resolution

Hello Fancy Lacy Community!!!


Photographer: Holly Schaeffer

The year is almost coming to the end. I have been busy doing this and that. It seems just like yesterday it was January. It is that time of the year where some us venture in creating ” New Years Resolutions”. For the first time, most of this year’s resolution was completed –  Here is how I made it happen.

1. Be realistic

Anything is possible when the mind and the right attitude is put into it. Know yourself and your limitations. Invest in your strengths to keep the motivation going. Try to kill those little bad habits that outshine your strengths. Create a vision. Don’t wait until tomorrow.

2. Set a goal

I came across this quote by Harvey Mackoy that states ” a goal is a dream with a deadline”.  Know what you want to do. Articulate what is,  state how you will do it, and when you will do it. Keep it simple so you don’t lose track, number the steps if you can. Review the steps. See what is working and what is not working. Make some corrections, edit the steps. Make some projections and give yourself some deadline.

3. Measure your goal

Write your goal. Have a checklist. Review your checklist and progress. Assign a number to each resolution.

Hopefully, this inspires you.


–  Judith


5 Wonderful Gestures To Make Your Holiday Merry

I am amazed at how we take little things for granted. Holiday seasons is when I look forward to spoiling my families and friends with gifts and my presence. While together, we create new memories and share great laughs. But what about the people I see or meet on the street? A little nice gesture will not hurt to make their day merry. Let’s get started


Beautiful smiles on the streets. From Fresh Walk Street

1. Greet someone, anybody today with a warm smile. A little smile is contagious and can make someone’s day. From Inspyr

2. Donate your time supporting a good cause. Check out some benefits of volunteer work. 

3. Say kind words. Appreciate people and their kind gestures. More selfless actions will make you happy.

4. Donate unused things in your home. Someone else will cherish your goodies and give them values.

5. Compliment someone. A sincere word of encouragement could empower someone today.


Sometimes we must give without expecting anything back. Try this, it creates a sense of JOY.